queer retreat

a multi day retreat for queers coming home to identity, desire, and the body.

CATSKILLS, NEW YORK | SEPTEMBER 24-28

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FREE MASTERCLASS

discover how to own your queerness so that you feel way more confident in queer intimacy

fully out

tuesday 1st september 7pm new york time

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free masterclass with jordana ezra

for queers who are ready to feel safe in their bodies

open to all genders, sexual orientations and relationship structure.

  • came out later in life (or are still questioning) and feel like your whole sense of self has been turned inside out

  • feel disconnected, numb, or confused around pleasure, desire, or what you actually want in intimacy

  • notice a pattern of overriding your body’s yes and no, people-pleasing in intimacy, or performing desire rather than feeling it

  • carry shame about being queer, even if you’re “out” and supported on the surface

  • intellectually understand concepts like internalised homophobia or compulsory heterosexuality, but haven’t yet felt their integration in your body

  • struggle to fully relax into queer intimacy, sex, or connection, even when you deeply want it

  • feel behind, awkward, or unsure of yourself in queer spaces, dating, or relationships

  • long to genuinely like who you are, not just accept yourself in theory

the work

  • coming home to your body

    slow, guided somatic practices designed to help you land back inside yourself. for a lot of us, being queer meant learning to leave the body to stay safe. this is the unlearning. sensation, breath, presence, without needing to explain any of it.

  • identity, integrated

    intellectually knowing you're queer and feeling it in your body are two different things. this work meets the gap between them. gently unwinding the shame, the performance, the parts of you still bracing for a room that doesn't want you.

  • desire, on your terms

    learn to tell the difference between wanting something and performing wanting it. between your yes and the yes you've rehearsed. desire gets to be yours here, whatever shape it takes.

  • heading: community as the medicine

    a small room of queers meeting each other with care. no explaining, no translating, no shrinking. some of the deepest healing happens in the witnessing itself; being seen by people who get it.

what’s included

    • daily facilitated somatic and embodiment practices designed to support nervous system safety, consent, and deeper relational presence

    • relationship-focused integration work that gently unwinds habitual patterns, unspoken dynamics, and protective behaviors that block intimacy

    • guided couple and group processes that support honest communication, embodied connection, and renewed trust with self and each other

    • a 4-week post-retreat group integration container to help you integrate the work into real life, relationships, and intimacy at home

    • luxury accommodation for the duration of the retreat.

    • private room for each couple

    • an intentionally intimate group size to ensure depth, care, and personalised facilitation

    • a curated retreat environment designed for rest, regulation, and ease

    • three high-quality, healthy meals per day, prepared by a private chef

    • thoughtfully designed menus to support energy, digestion, and overall wellbeing

what’s not included

    • travel and personal expenses are not included.

common questions

  • not at all. this retreat welcomes queers at every stage. recently out, still questioning, long sure but never in a room like this before. wherever you are with your identity is exactly where you're meant to start.

  • you're especially welcome here. a lot of people in the room will be walking a similar path. coming out later means unlearning a whole life of one story to make room for the truth. this retreat is designed to hold that.

    some rituals invite deeper intimate practice. if you'd rather rest, integrate, or spend time in the spa, that's equally welcome. each day has themes and plenty of space to land.

  • no. open to all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures. gay, bi, pan, lesbian, dyke, fluid, questioning, unlabeled. partnered, single, complicated. trans, non-binary, cis. the room is intentionally mixed. that's part of the medicine.

  • not at all. this retreat isn't crisis work. it's for queers who love their life and want to go deeper. whether you're thriving and craving depth, or you've been feeling a little disconnected, both are welcome.

  • there's sexuality content held within a structured, consent-first container. some sessions invite deeper embodied practice. at ezra somatics, you're always invited, never expected. you choose what feels correct for you, session by session. rest is a practice here too.

  • for relevant sessions, yes. everything is invitational. you choose what feels true for you. choice and consent are the foundation of everything we do here.

  • really common. most people arrive nervous. the container is small, intentionally, so no one gets lost in it. you're not asked to perform, share, or participate in anything you're not ready for. jordana holds the room closely, and there's always space to opt out and land.

  • because the retreat is intimate and carefully held, every place is booked through a short conversation with jordana first. this isn't an interview. it's a space to connect, ask questions, and make sure the retreat is the right fit for you. if it's aligned on both sides, you'll move forward from there.

  • a clear cancellation policy and payment plan options are shared on your application call.

if you want all the juicy details…

get the full retreat guide below.

Get the Queer retreat Guide